I have been with my GF for about 7 years and everything is starting to become a bit stale. It is a stable type of relationship and I know that its time for me to commit and get a BTO, etc etc. Post-graduation, we also started working at super long hour jobs and hardly see each other except for admin talk about the future. The thing is, I seriously wondering what is out there and if I have missed out in the 'testing' phase of life. Recently at work, I have gotten to know a few interns that seem to show some interest in getting to know me and they have also invited me to go clubbing/drinks and meet their other friends outside of work. A few of them have caught my eye and seriously damn tempting to just go for it. They seriously make me feel young again. Of course, I wouldn't act on it but I'm just wondering, am I f***ed up to think this way?

I have been with my girlfriend for almost 1 year now. We’re the ideal couple from the outside, smart, decent looking and working professionals, but on the inside we are struggling. Although I find her pretty I just can’t get my little brother up and running. And on the other hand, she struggles with the fact that I’m not fully a Christian. I’m open to going to church and have been doing so, but I just don’t dedicate my thoughts and lifestyle around the church and it’s teachings. We recently decided on a break up because of the above reasons. Can I seek the collective wisdom of the crowd especially those who’ve faced similar issues how you overcame them, or is breaking up the logical move here?

My ex-bf has repeatedly threatened to hurt and kill me and my family since our breakup last year. I've severed contact with him, but he keeps sending me emails acting as if nothing has happened. I feel deeply disturbed and scared when I receive his emails, I couldn't concentrate on my work and studies. I need to read his emails as I need to know what he might do next and be prepared when he decides to carry out his threats. His capacity to follow through on these threats leaves me constantly anxious, even in my own home. I've made a police report and consulted a psychologist. Their suggestion was to apply for a protection order, but I think it's very likely to escalate the situation or might trigger him to act. I still hold onto hopes that he will eventually stop harassing me as time passes. He's a Singapore PR and is currently working in another country, I genuinely hope that he doesn't decide to return to Singapore, or if he does, stay away from me. #SOS

OP of #107400 here. https://www.NUSWhispers.com/confession/107400 Would like to clarify that yes, I am definitely able to buy my own Gucci bags, even Chanel, LV, Rolex and whatever. But the point is, isn’t it much more practical to get the Gucci bag for proposal instead of a stupid bling (which he mentioned would be expensive but didn’t state the exact value), since I personally do not have a liking for diamonds. I don’t need to have an expensive ring for proposal. So what’s the point of him buying me an expensive ring for me (which I will seldom wear)? And I will have to spend another $2k on the bag when he could have just gotten me the bag and maybe a ring for proposal that cost less than a thousand? Isn’t it much more cost saving? What makes me rage the most is that, it doesn’t seem as though he is really saving for an “expensive ring” if he can turn down such a good deal of spending only $3k for a proposal. As for myself, I don’t mind spending on the one I love, and I have bought him gifts like Sperry shoes, Fred Perry Polo tees etc on occasions. And my birthday? A small cake from him. Split hotel cost for staycation. I have mentioned that I understand he is a little stingy when it comes to money, and we have fought a few times over financial issues. Currently, we are also splitting on our dates even though he let me pay a little less. We have also come too far at this stage to breakup over our character differences, afterall we have already applied for flat 2 years back. I just felt that his reply was a red flag and I highly doubt he’s really saving for expensive ring like he claimed. We made an agreement to post this matter on this platform to see how the public will react to our different POVs. But ohwell, seems like most of the people think that choosing a cost saving method is wrong and my bf should dump me. So I guess I will be buying my own bag and wearing that “expensive” bling from him which I will be throwing aside after a few months of wearing it. Haha.

had a bf years but had sex with another dude i met in school. should i let me bf know about it? helpsss

Hope everyone is doing well ! I just have some thoughts about the future and hope to gain some advice. Currently left 2yrs of uni and as an only child (F) with parents age in the 60s range, i cant seem to stop thinking what will happen in the near future. I am very fortunate that my parents have planned out their retirements and are financially independent to be prepared for their old age. However, it seems far-fetched but i cant seem to be able to understand how i am going to be carry out my duties as their only daughter when one of them passes. In recent years i could see how their health is deteriorating, despite their healthy lifestyle and along with my grandparents passing on, just the thought of one of them not being present is really terrifying and i don't think I will ever be ready to be emotionally supporting either of them. How does typical praying rituals goes, how will we proceed on in our life, all these concerns seems to be really distant but yet it always lingers whenever i see an elderly, funeral proceedings, even a child. I just can seem to get these thoughts away or to feel reassured. Do i go and see a therapist? Talk to my parents? Friends? I have no idea and it does seems unfilial to carry out conversations and thoughts like this when my parents are clearly still present. I would like to apologise in advance to those whom lost their loved ones way earlier in life and i hope that what i have mentioned does not too sound to condescending, it is truly not my intention.