(TLDR) Im 39/m. Married for 9-10years. Before marriage, i used to patronize massage parlors. Got addicted when i was working overseas. After marriage, still visited massage places from time to time. I feel guilty whenever i receive some special services. No sex involved(let me be clear). It is wrong of me to even visit such ill reputed places. 4yrs into our marriage, wife found out my visitations. We have a kid. She took our kid and left. Filed for divorce. After counseling and for sake of our kid, she decided to stay with me. It’s been 5yrs now since that, from time to time, she reminds me how i cheated on her. How much she hates me for what i’ve done. She unable to forgive me. I changed job and took a lower paying job with better prospect. But need to do shift work. And that upset her. I have not return back or visiting any spas. I’m honest and be open with her. Up till now, there is no sex or even a tiny bit of intimacy. Just going with the flow. Just feeling regret and guilt and wish things to be better. Just not sure how to move forward.

I met someone during a very difficult season of her life. She was going through a separation, and over time we became close. It started with simple check-ins, conversations, and being there for each other… and somewhere along the way, feelings developed. Nothing inappropriate happened. But emotionally, it became something more than just casual friendship. The thing is her situation was (and still is) complicated. There were moments of connection, then moments of distance. At one point, her husband even got involved, and things turned ugly. That was a wake-up call for me. Recently, we both acknowledged the truth: this isn’t the right time. She’s still transitioning, healing, figuring things out. And I realised I don’t deserve to be in a position where things are unclear, inconsistent, or potentially messy. So we agreed to stop. For now. But if I’m being honest, it’s not easy. Especially during this Raya period. I know she’s feeling it more too, with children involved and the shift from what used to be a family routine. For me, life has always been simpler in that sense, so I process things differently. What makes it harder is knowing that their marriage had already been on the edge long before I came into the picture — yet somehow, I’ve been painted as part of the reason things fell apart. I know the truth, and she knows the truth. But it’s still uncomfortable being seen that way by others, especially when you were just trying to be there for someone. At the same time, I know stepping back is the right thing to do. Not just for her, but for me too. I value clarity, stability, and doing things the right way. I guess I’m just trying to process this: How do you let go of something that felt real, even if it came at the wrong time? Would appreciate thoughts from anyone who’s been through something similar.

With this whole saga on the lady that applied 13 times the BTO and getting outed by HDB, I just want to point out my family was also a victim of HDB's bs. Don't wanna get outed so not sharing but basically on their point on why no one wanna take SBF, SBF is more expensive than BTO. More ex, for the same freaking flat that was built and launched and people paid for 5 years ago during initial exercise. See if 400k is pre BTO price, and now that it's built and immediately ready its 20% more, why would I take a smaller, more expensive flat plus give up their first-time BTO rights vs getting resale? If there is no markup from BTO prices more people will take for sure. Anyway why is it more expensive?? Isn't HDB just trying to profit from citizens? Don't give me that percieved value, land value doing up BS, that's none of our business. And a % of the SBF flats are from ppl breaking up and forfieting downpayments, that definitely covers the cost of building to some extent so how dare you mark up some more. Explain the economics before you accuse people of wanting to flip housing. The main flipper is YOU! The government! You cannot tell me our housing prices are justified. Not every young person is working in tech making 10k salaries and a DINK couple. We have NORMAL families NORMAL people making 8k combined income with kids. How can they justify a 300k mortgage, let alone 400k, while raising kids properly with the additional resources required to set them up in our competitive environment? There are a lot of SBF bc HDB's rules are stupidly strict and not everyone qualifies. It's not because people want to be picky, the reality is also very much we don't have a choice in that matter. Put the SBF flats in open market, see who are the takers. Then you will see the disparity between how wealth affects personal choices.

Across the silent distance, her thoughts reached him like a gentle touch on the skin. The longest separation did not weaken the intensity of their infinite love. Each heartbeat was pulsed with a steady frequency, sending signals of longing that no barrier could block. "In perfect resonance, our love vibrates on the same wavelength, carrying a gentle, celestial energy that feels heavenly." Even when the complexity of life and worldly obstacles threatened to keep them apart, resonance occurred naturally between their souls. Sometimes, their emotions radiated an intense feeling that echoed across the universe. A single thought of love could transcend space and time and reach deep within the other person's heart. In that echo, they realized something profound: if love itself could travel across infinite distance, resonate through every frequency, and carry enough energy to reach hearts far away, then so could understanding, compassion, and peace. Then perhaps, the true solution to ending the war is not in sending in troops or weapons, but in sending countless invisible waves of care, kindness, and dialogue across every space between people. When the intensity of love surpasses the force of hatred, the energy of peace becomes unstoppable. Realizing that every human heart are capable of emitting wave of compassion, and if all could align on the same resonance of empathy, no barrier or conflict could withstand it. Every act of kindness shall become a pulse that travels further than any missile; every act of listening a ripple more powerful than troops. Guided by the subtle forces of connection, nations and people shall resonate together, converging towards the goal of harmony. Borders and walls will remain, but the collective frequency of peace and compassion will create a global wave pattern of cooperation. So much so that even corners that once carried hate could no longer hold it because of the overwhelming amplitude of collective love and empathy. Ideologies that once clashed shall begin to merge constructively, amplifying trust instead of destruction. Old disputes shall fade as humans learn to tune their hearts to a frequency of empathy and compassion rather than fear. The world, once chaotic, will begin to oscillate in perfect resonance once again, proving once again that the most powerful form is not violence or domination—but the energy of collective understanding and love. In this ultimate harmony, the message is clear indeed: love, empathy, and compassion are not just emotions. They are actual energies that travel, resonate, and amplify like waves across the globe. If every heart contributes even the tiniest wave of compassion, the result can change the fate of humanity. War may have been humanity’s shadow, but it is no match for our unstoppable wave of love. As the world vibrates in unity, peace will no longer be just a dream—it is the inevitable outcome of hearts in perfect resonance. In the new world, no distance could separate hearts tuned to the same resonance. Eventually, the boundless energy of love and empathy will extinguish the flames of war, and humanity discover a new rhythm of life. And in that rhythm, they shall realize the secret to happiness: it is not in wealth, power, or control, but in the resonance of shared understanding, the vibrations of gratitude, and the waves of connection that flow between hearts. Each act of compassion adds energy to the universal field, amplifying joy across every distance. When human learn to tune themselves to the same frequency of empathy and gratitude, happiness becomes a natural wave that could not be blocked or diminished, like a perfectly synchronized symphony of waves. By sending out pulses of love, aligning with the godly vibrations of the world, and embracing the invisible forces that connect all beings, humanity shall finally understand that true happiness is a resonance—a shared, infinite energy that grows stronger every time it is given away. And in that eternal vibration, humanity realized the ultimate truth: when hearts are tuned to the same frequency of love, empathy, and gratitude, life itself becomes a harmonious tune of infinite possibility and everlasting bliss. To end the war, align our frequency with the vibrations of compassion, tune your soul to the resonance of empathy, and let your heart resonate with the world's high vibrations. You will realize that the world is a reflection of your thoughts and happiness is definitely within reach for us. -Love of peace

A 45-minute bus ride home turned into 2 hours today. Left work around 6pm from the MacPherson area, took a bus that goes via PIE and BKE. And like almost every other day… another accident on the PIE. Massive jam. Honestly, I don’t know how the rest of Singapore feels, but I’m really frustrated and stressed. So many drivers speed like they own the road, or keep cutting lanes just to get ahead by a few cars. In the end what happens? Someone brakes too late, someone clips another car, and tadah — accident and thousands of people stuck in traffic. I’ve seen it so many times. Drivers weaving between lanes like they’re in a racing game, just to save a few minutes. But the irony is everyone ends up getting delayed for hours instead. Can we just drive responsibly? People just want to get home to their families after a long day of work. Time is precious. Don’t waste everyone else’s.

I am a Malaysian woman. Today, I refuse to stay silent. I want to speak publicly about a year and a half of deception, manipulation, and emotional harm that I endured. I met this Singaporean man through work. We first became properly acquainted at a company dinner. After that, he started pursuing me, and in September 2024, we officially entered into a relationship. I am a very private person, so I never made this relationship public. I believed we were simply keeping our relationship low-key. What I did not realize was that from the very beginning, it was built on lies. In December 2024, just three months into the relationship, I became pregnant for the first time. He told me that we had only just started dating and that the pregnancy came too suddenly. He persuaded me to terminate the pregnancy. I trusted him. And I endured the pain of letting go of my first child. It was not until September 2025, when I became pregnant for the second time, that I discovered he already had a wife. My world completely collapsed. Yet he continued to manipulate and emotionally control me. He told me that he and his wife had not had a sexual relationship for ten years, that their marriage was already dead in name, and that he was in the process of getting a divorce. He also insisted that I had to terminate the pregnancy first so that I could continue living well in Singapore and so that we could have a future together. I believed him again. And once again, I hurt my own body and terminated the pregnancy. The divorce he promised never happened. From beginning to end, it was just another lie. This relationship dragged on until February 2026, sustained by his persuasion, manipulation, and deception. Then I became pregnant for the third time. This time, he stopped pretending. On one hand, he pressured me to have another abortion. On the other hand, he threatened me saying that if my family ever found out, or if I exposed him, I would have to face the consequences. Now, he has chosen the easiest path for himself: silence treatment. He ignores me, avoids responsibility, and pretends nothing happened. The most ironic part of all this is that throughout everything, he still believes he is not a bad man. He often told me: “Other men would only lie to you. I wouldn’t.” Looking back now, it is almost laughable. He lied through three pregnancies. He pressured me into two abortions. He delayed a divorce that never existed. And in the end, he threatened me and disappeared. Yet he still said he was not the kind of man who lies. Only now do I fully realize the truth. From the very beginning, he hide his marriage. When I first became pregnant, he was already avoiding responsibility. By the second pregnancy, he was manipulating my emotions. And by the third, he was openly pressuring and threatening me to sacrifice my own body again. As a woman trying to build a life in a foreign country, I trusted him. I was soft-hearted. I stayed quiet and kept the relationship private. Because of that trust, I was slowly dragged into a situation that damaged both my body and my mind. Three pregnancies. Two abortions. The physical and emotional scars cannot simply disappear. And throughout all of it, he enjoyed my sincerity and devotion while never giving me a single honest truth or taking any real responsibility. I am sharing this not to seek sympathy. I am sharing this to remind other women: Never lower your guard simply because someone appears gentle, respectable, or professionally connected to you. Some people may appear completely normal on the outside, yet inside they can be deeply irresponsible, manipulative, and even capable of threatening the people who trust them. I also want to say to anyone who has been hurt like I have: Silence will not earn you kindness. Endurance will not earn you sincerity. Protecting yourself is never too late.