I’m an infant teacher in a centre, and there is a mother-and-daughter duo working here, along with their family members. As our centre has an open-concept environment, there are times when they get to be with their own child in the same class and assist. Many of us feel this is a form of favoritism because previous staff who had children in the centre were not given the same privileges or special treatment. What makes it even more unusual is that this mother-and-daughter duo seem to get everything their way. Everyone appears to like them, including parents, HR, and management. I have never seen a principal regularly sit down and have lunch with staff, yet she does so with them. Sometimes, they even have lunch separately while leaving out other teachers, which creates an uncomfortable impression. The principal appears to listen to the daughter a lot and seems to favour her opinions. They share personal matters and have a very close relationship. The surprising part is that she was sponsored for a course in less than a year, while many of the rest of us have been waiting much longer or are still waiting for opportunities. To be clear, this is not about jealousy or being overly concerned about other people’s affairs. It is about the perception of unfairness, bias, and unequal treatment. As human beings, we understand that not everyone will like us, but when the same people consistently receive privileges, opportunities, and special attention, it naturally raises questions among staff. Some colleagues jokingly say it feels like “black magic” because of how much influence they seem to have. Realistically, it is probably not black magic, but rather favoritism, strong personal relationships, or workplace politics. What staff are really concerned about is fairness, transparency, and equal opportunities for everyone.

Hey guys, here's an interesting thing, I am a bad boy, but I was brought over to the good side at a young age. Under the custody of government social professionals(even in prison, they can take custody of me there), they labelled me as a high risk person but still allowed me to be in the society(IMH home leave). Stories can go on and on but I would love to hear from good boys/girls on the territory of the bad side(if any).

In some families, even today, daughters are expected to take on a lot of responsibility, to give way to their brothers, and to constantly do more for the family. There can be an unspoken mindset that the boys (sometimes even if they are already in their 30s or 50s) need to be supported no matter what (even if it comes at the sisters’ expense) because their success is seen as especially important. You can say it is due to favouritism, or the parents simply are still having an outdated mindset. For example, I knew of an ex-colleague who had to share her scholarship allowance with her younger sibling (I could see it was quite unfair for her but given her family's financial situation at that time she was persuaded by her mum to do it as she told me). I am not sure whether she has "recoup" her investment but that’s an incredibly heavy expectation for anyone to carry, and it can slowly create hurt, resentment, and distance within the family. She used to be a happy person but there was once she broke down in front of me due to stress. I know the frustration that she had to experience this and I hope parents be fair to all their kids regardless of their gender. The unspoken belief that the male kids must be supported at all costs (even at the expense of their sisters) in order to ensure their success in society should not exist in today's world. In many families, it’s not unusual for one child to be treated more favorably than another. Sometimes it’s subtle, and sometimes it is very obvious due to weird family expectations. The first thing I want you to remember is that your frustration probably has very little, if anything, to do with who you are as a person. I hope you find mia and that she feels better now.

Hi all, I'm getting married to a foreigner and recent events has made me quite nervous about our future life together. Since we started dating, we know we wanted to leave SG and try life in his hometown, where his parents actually has a small house for us to potentially restore and be our forever home. Unfortunately, they decided to sell the place due to financial hardship and immediate need for liquidity (medical). We actually have been living together overseas and the parents' reason for selling was also because we don't work near their town (we are in a mid-sized city but were going to move back once we got married, he just proposed). For context, he is not SG PR so cannot BTO anyway which puts us in a pickle because resale prices are too expensive for us unless we go some ulu estate.. But now I feel like it no longer makes sense to stay in his country if we have no leg up so we are forced to choose as housing is not that cheap (comparable to SG, only slightly more affordable), so whether we buy a resale in SG or in his country it's lifetime commitment either way. I am not sure what to do. I feel like a gold digger in a way because I only was okay dating and falling in love with him for some level of security due to the house (of course that's not the only reason, but housing is a big worry for me from the start for obvious reasons). Now it's like a massive shift in life plans and I am not so confident of our success or happiness in the immediate future. All my friends are Sgreans couples so they don't understand what it's like to not have affordable BTO as an option. This situation doesn't change my feelings for him as a person, but I am just very worried about our future. Now I don't know whether to come back SG or stay in his country. Being in Singapore comes with its own set of problems and with the PR pipeline being impossible now due to competition, I get very nervous about telling him not to worry and SG has our back (because it doesn't...). I feel like at the end of the day, we will end up buying a place in his country but not his hometown. So this might be a silver lining as we have more freedom now. But wow housing prices globally is sad. We will have to delay having children now and a part of me feels sad about it, but I rather be financially responsible. Thank you for reading my story.

So I’m recently a victim of money lending scam. Have lodged a police report. Can someone advise me what to do while waiting for the investigations officer’s update? If the scammers contact me again and ask for money, do I engage with them or just totally shut them down. Also, I fear of getting harassed and my workplace as they have obtained my personal information. Thanks in advance.

for context, i came from a very humble beginning and i was an FAS kid growing up. but now that i’m in my 20s near approaching 30s, i realise i really can’t do this shit any longer. the 4 men that are supposed to be the light in my life, the harbour; what are they doing instead of shouldering more responsibilities at home and in life in general? man #1: whenever i am going through a rough patch or just tired and burnt out etc, what does he do? “awww” “poor thing” “there there”. may i know how the f does this help to alleviate my burden??? man #2: just adds on to my troubles by ranting to me about his in which it just doesn’t make sense because 99% of his problems are caused by him and him only. man #3: also all talk but no action. abab want to quit job. nearing 30s also now then want to take up part time studies like for what?? man #4: just gaming and/or sleeping all day. that’s it. affecting my sleep time and quality and thrashing the room. cleans room on own accord only once in a rainbow moon. so what the f am i supposed to do? i’m only human lol. while people are enjoying life without consequences, i also want to enjoy life without having to think like oh i have xxx commitments at the back of my mind. but realistically speaking if i do that (financially and physically) everything will come crashing down. and i am f-ing expected to be a 100% functioning human and picking up after people all the damn f-ing time. some help please and time to wake up your f-ing idea maybe???