• Update to #15044
    #8447romanceadvice· 15min ago
    0 responses
    Poll has closed.

    I asked him out on hangouts but recently after the last time we hung out, he started to ghost me or so-so. Replying to my messages after a day(or more) or being online but not replying back, can I ask the guys if this is to show that you aren't interested anymore?

    👍 0❤️ 0😂 0
    2
  • Dad is driving everyone crazy
    #8486advicerant· 10h ago

    Is it that people got locked up too long now all go holiday that lots of holiday conflicts? Currently my mother just had a melt down after my father went crazy in the hotel over something minor. Sister and I are caught in between because the issue could only be solved by themselves as it’s between them and their friends. Father wished to be commander and throw all the dirty shit jobs to mum. Mum had enough after 20 over years and these few days being stuck with him due to tour group and she have to fake happy in front of outsiders. It’s just a short 5 days trip to Thailand, following a tour but is semi-free and easy. Father kept blaming mum for the problem caused by their common friend, and it’s so minor plus he agreed on the plan now he doesn’t want to cooperate and left things hanging. (Deadline given to him for respond way before the trip) Obviously to get things to work, they will chase him for a yes or no! He just don’t want to answer so no choice they texted my mother. He blew up and started his crazy rampage. Throw things, mess up the luggage and refuse to get out of the hotel. As long as no outsider there to see, he act up! Imagine a 60 year old doing that! For 2 straight days he still not over it. Very very sianz, in the end, he asked for his passport and mum gave it to him. He nearly torn it up. Mum walked away and had a mental break down! She held too much of his shit inside already! He everything cannot, put blame on others and make minor, non related issues into big problem YOU created because anything that makes him unhappy, is your fault! Honestly, he has been somewhat like that all the time, just that he haven’t really act up like this during trips. This is the first and worst and probably last family trip! I felt I wasted all my money for the trip, we missed a few places of interest just to give in to his tantrums! With 2 more days to go, us stuck in a hotel room … I don’t know what to do… we planned a Venice trip for next year, I think better don’t go liao! 5 days already like this torturous! I pity my mum, she can’t go Venice till he dies coz nobody is willing to go with him!

    👍 0❤️ 0😂 0
    0
  • When to be honest and when to not?
    #8479advicerant· 10h ago

    I have always been the shy, quiet perso who obviously lacks communication skills and sometimes rather just exit silently. Sometimes people hate it that I don't tell them. What's wrong but often I feel it's obvious. (Maybe it's just obvious to me?!) I grew up in a very very traditional family whereby the male or the "head of family" have the say and as a female, I should take the back row. Doesn't help when my father is egoistic and have too much pride. I often caught my father or someone else in situations that they're wrong - like stealing or cutting queue or being unreasonable...etc I usually just kept quiet. The only few times I did spoke up (to my dad), ended either in quarrels or cold war, as in he got so angry that he took it out on my mother and sibling as well. He always give all of us cold shoulders or throw items of someone/switch off the electricity from the power supply just to show his unhappiness and authority. Basically, "all for one"; one person anger him, everyone gets punished. My sibling and I don't earn much and much of our earnings goes back to our parents and the family expenses. My mother have chronic illness which requires regular checkups and medicines, so hard for us to move out. Problem is, it's affecting everyone now that he is getting more used to us giving in to him to avoid argument and having other members dragged into it. My mother is also getting less tolerant of him and quarrels more often with him. I got tired coming back from work to someone switching the main power off randomly or having to pick my items out from the dustbin. I really wish to tell him honestly how childish and annoying he is but I know things will get really nasty because 1) I might not be able to regulate my temper well enough if he pounced, get defensive and come up with his rubbish excuses and blaming techniques ("the seller is rude so I don't return his plate to the tray return!", "Police won't catch me since it's only one small item and I am an elder!") 2) someone is bound to come in to "add on" - esp my sibling who chooses to stay over at his friend more than at home 3) I don't like confrontation... And I do feel it's not going to do anything to the situation... If it's you, what would you do?

    👍 0❤️ 0😂 0
    0
  • Very tired dealing with an insecure colleague.
    #8477advice· 10h ago

    How do you deal with an insecure colleague who constantly disagrees with you for the sake of disagreeing? I work with this colleague and I'm new in the company for a few months. Boss seems to be extra nice to me and I do find I may be getting better treatment but that's also because I believe I got more work done faster than expected. This colleague often shows up late, leaves early and spends her time disturbing others to chit chat. I don't see her getting much done during office hours. So recently I've been assigned to help her as she declared she can't meet her deadlines. I sensed she wasn't happy about it as I'm her junior. The way she talked to me, any human would be able to sense her hostility towards me. I may be wrong but I suspect her coldness towards me is that maybe she feel that I may take over her job one day. It was only when I needed to contact her regarding the projects that I realised she had blocked me. I just want to ride over getting the work done so I emailed her but she doesn't reply too. When I try to discuss with her at work she would disagree to everything that I've suggested. Because she refuses to talk to me, I ended up doing most of the work alone but I submitted both our names as it was originally her projects. All my ideas that she rejected were actually accepted and highly discussed with interest during the meeting so I was sure I picked out suitable highlights to focus and improve on. Due to the 'success' of the first team project, I have been tasked to team up with her again as she still have pending projects. Now, on top of working on my own assignments, I will likely be doing her work on my own again. On one hand, I didn't want to completely take over her work as I thought this should be the reason why she is cold towards me. But at the same time, I would really rather get it all done with minimum conflict since she is unwilling to have a proper conversation with me. I am aware my superior has a rough idea what's going on. I do not wish to cause my colleague trouble too. What can I do to improve the situation? She is very hard to talk to so I really don't know what to do. I do not wish to involve a 3rd person as I fear making matters worse or start any gossip. I really like this company and enjoy my work so I don't have plans to quit because of this. Help!

    👍 0❤️ 0😂 0
    0
  • pls make it easier to follow tea
    #8445funnyrant· 14h ago

    I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks this :") I only look at the telegram channel for this confession page and not IG. So it's a bit sian when someone's like to #number then the number is from IG. And visa versa if you only follow the IG page. Tele's numbers are like 8000+ then IG is 15000+. Admins, is it possible to help make the series of confessions/replies easier to follow? Sincerely, this telegram channel's tea at times are my source of entertainment during this period

    👍 0❤️ 0😂 0
    1
  • Reply to the person who flake
    #8444advicerant· 14h ago

    Same! I know of this person in IS y4. He is someone who likes to make empty promises and a habitual liar who likes to flip prata. He will also be very very nice to someone whenever he needs something and throw you under bus after he got what he wanted. Whenever I see this happening, I will just cringe. And me being a "stupid" person decided to tell him about it, and he got really defensive and start spreading rumours about me and do all sort of things just to get into my way. LOL Thus, I think an important factor to deem if the person is trustworthy is someone who does not participate in gossips, does not make empty promises aka flaky and doing things behind someone back as what he does to others, will one day do the same thing to you whenever you are of no value to the individual... so observe what an individual does, instead of listening what he/she says as talk is cheap

    👍 0❤️ 0😂 0
    0