im a fresh poly grad and recently as soon as i got a job, my parents cut off all financial support (except utilities and phone bills) but my (very first) pay wont even come in till mid-august and im surviving on my last $150 which has to cover my meals, (adult) transport fare. ive been trying to stick to below $5 per meal (2x a day) and transport costs around $4 for me to go to work and back home. my total spendings in a day is about $10-20 so far but im definitely not going to have enough till i receive my pay. any advice on what i can do? i have already tried talking to my parents but they still refuse to help

So I'm 12 and I'm dating my classmate. We are both shy so we don't rlly talk to each other most of the time our friends will find a way to put me and him together. And since his results are kinda average and gets scolded a lot in class my friends all say he's a red flag. Once he left me on read for a week and on delivered for more than a week. Even though I still like him it doesn't seem like he likes me even my friends agree. Should I continue to date him or break up?

I have started at this firm 2years+ and thankfully my boss (HOD) confirmed my as a permanently earlier than the usual policy of 2+ 2year. I report to her directly since a person I suppose to report to has left. She kind and bother to guide and clarify quickly over a call. In fact many calls and micro meetings in her room, unstructured. Some times chat more than work stuffs. She will say she sees potential in me and I’m aware she treats me well and better than others of the similar level. And old birds have things to say cos based on my portfolios they don’t really require ops but many financials reporting to different stakeholders. Others need to do daily ops, manage internal staffs. Sometimes she’s too clingy as a boss, relying on my to remember many details and I feel I’m evolving to her PA cos my workload not a lot and I can attend to her ad hoc request. hand hold me since the start - while others have a department manager to guide. Now my portfolio not doing well and to cease soon and Aug restructuring. She told me she’s planning a job/ role to weave me into. The other business unit that doesn’t really like her as a HOD. Even for lunch she will ask me to join her cos she doesn’t mingle with other HODs. I will respond to her anytime cos I’m appreciative of having a job after being a stay home mum for sometime. As much as I’m comfortable with working with her I don’t a progress in this career. Where internal transfers are possible I have no confident to pursue. Should I just wait for her to plan my career?

I am currently a paralegal of a law firm. The recent article about lawyers leaving the profession has attracted a lot of attention. However, I believe that support staff, paralegal and legal executives are overlooked. While lawyers are burning out, whenever they are pressured, or being scolded by judges, they bring their anger down to the paralegal and legal executives. I was just being labelled as “stupid” and “having brains but never use.” In fact, in most law firms, the paralegal and legal executives are the ones drafting the entire legal documents and not the lawyers. In fact, some lawyers don’t even talk to the clients and it was the paralegal. So to all lawyers who are always complaining tired and getting scolded by judges, please look at the mirror and think who is the one who’s actually doing the work. Thank you for reading.

We were together for many years. He has a wife and daughters. I knew from the beginning there was no future, no promises. But I fell in love anyway. He was my best friend before anything else. Good looking, doing well in his career. I never intended to fall for him — I just liked him as a person. What started as friends with benefits turned into real emotions, and before I knew it, I was in too deep. All along, he gave me every boyfriend and girlfriend treatment. We celebrated birthdays, Christmas, Valentine's Day together. He once said: "We are in a relationship, committed to each other in a way." It never felt casual — not even once. He only texted on working days. I complied. We only met during office hours — lunch breaks, or taking leave in the day to be together. Other than our trips, we probably only had dinner together 10 to 20 times in 2 years plus. When he went home at night, our conversation ended. When I was sick, I didn't dare message him. I stopped wearing perfume when we met — because his wife had once questioned why there was a perfume smell on the seat belt. He used to say he didn't want to waste my time. But at the same time, he kept giving me just enough — special treatment, saying he missed me, being intimate with me — just enough to make sure I could never really move on or open my heart to anyone else. I gave 100%. No demands, no drama. I was afraid that if I asked for too much, he would leave. For almost 10 months he kept saying he was planning a trip for us. I waited. I even hoped we could celebrate my 30th birthday together. On 27 May, he sent 3 messages: *"My wife found out about us. I can't meet or see you anymore."* *"I can't be faithful anymore."* *"I need to bring my family back together again."* I replied saying I respected his decision. And I never heard from him again. I am okay with the breakup — even though I was dying inside. What I cannot accept is how he did it. Yes, what we had was morally wrong. But after 2 years plus, I deserved at least a proper goodbye. He is well respected by everyone around him. People see him as a true gentleman. On top of his day to day career, he also serves as a high ranking reservist officer. But this is who he really is behind closed doors. Actually, I was heartbroken. I cried like crazy for the past one month. I ended up having to go to the hospital. I know what we did was wrong. I'm sorry to his wife. And I'm sorry to myself — for wasting 2 years plus on a man who couldn't even give me a proper goodbye. To every girl out there — a man's character goes far beyond what he shows on the outside. You only see who he really is when he is put in a difficult situation. Never fall for someone married. No matter how real it feels, to them, you will always be the one easiest to let go.

Sorry, this is quite long. I would like to share my experience being infatuated with a colleague. She can be considered one of my good friends at work even though she's quite new working less than 2 years. She's the type of girl who is friendly, kind and fun to be around. Naturally it's easier to get close to this type of person. At first we weren't really close, but recently became close due to the same deployment at work. As we get each other numbers, we texted frequently. To the point in less than 2 months we called one another "honey" and "baby". And whenever we meet up would flirt with each other playfully. I didn't realised this, but slowly I began to miss her when she's not around. She will also update me on whatever personal issues. Anyway sometimes when she sees me close to some other colleagues, she would always told me "U are not allowed to be close to others, u are mine only". This made me think that she likes me the way I like her. We also have a mutual close friend whom she likes to share her issues with. But she is closer to me in terms of contact. Recently instead of spending time with me during her break, she chose to go spend time with the other friend, even though both their locations are quite far. I was nearer to her. And of course I thought she will naturally wanted to spend time with me. When I found out though that she chose to find the other friend, I was quite angry and annoyed. She knew I was finding her beforehand, yet she proceeded without telling me. After that she knew I was angry and she tried to explain during a call. I just told her she should just be honest and told me she was going to find the other friend, instead of keeping it from me. She kept saying "sorry baby". Then we ended the call as we had other duties. The thing is, I wasn't able to move on after that. I knew she already said sorry, but i keep thinking about it. And i felt so much hurt and sadness knowing she didn't choose to spend time with me. I keep replaying the situation to the night. And the hurt feelings didn't subside. Now I was thinking, is this how feelings of infatuation and attachment ended up? Was she playing with my feelings all these time, knowing fully well how much i trust her? Was she misleading me with her closeness? I'm writing this now at 1.30am. And this issue happened during the day actually. Till now I'm feeling hurt. I decided to grieve and listen to sad songs. And also to share my experience. What do u people think? Can anyone answer the above questions? Thanks for reading :)