• Life is too much of a discovery.
    #7118advice· 17h ago

    I recently changed from a high stress corporate job to a lesser stress job in a new industry, partly to have more time for my kids and not to bring stress home. Viola! The new job is indeed much less stressful and more freetime. Interestingly, I feel rather empty. Not sad, not happy, not excited, just emotionless and waiting for time to pass by and chores to be done each day. Most people would feel contented as pay is roughly the same for both jobs. My philosophy used to be, using the minimum effort (work) to get the maximum output (salary). I'm fulfilling this philosophy but why isn't there a sense of euphoric? People are into bailan culture and while I think I'm partially into it, it doesn't feel right leh. Feels like something is off but I'm not sure what is it. Now there's an opportunity to go back to the corporate function and I'm considering it. Am I nuts to think that way? I feel like I'm so indecisive and current job gives so much free time though not much prospect. What if I changed back to corporate job but I have no time for kids? How do you manage to find time for your kids when they were younger while u and ur wife were driving out a career?

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  • Can HDB build faster so I can move out from in-laws
    #7117rant· 17h ago

    Wah I v tired leh My mother in law v pushy. She expects us to tc of baby her way. If we don’t, she keep nagging & say should do her way, is better. TOH. Feed baby fries good ah? Crazy leh. She has a habit, like to secretly feed baby things when we are not looking at her. So I cannot trust her to spend time with my baby without me around to eyeball. V sian leh She v stubborn. I v tired. My husband also tired of her nonsense. But she don’t listen. Our house only coming in 2 years, cause delay. My sanity is taking a toll. @HDB, can faster build please? If not I think just help us cancel and refund our deposit can? So I can just apply for resale, faster. If I have to spend another 2 years with this crazy woman, idk if my children’s stomach & my sanity can tahan

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  • Wife forces herself to vomit to avoid gaining weight during pregnancy
    #7116advice· 17h ago

    Please help. Any advice is greatly appreciated. My wife and I (29M) have been together for 11 years since we were both in JC, and finally got married in 2019. Currently, she is pregnant and nearing the end of her second trimester. Since young, she has always suffered with confidence and self-esteem issues, and they were mainly about her weight. She is slim (about 48kg and 160cm if anyone is curious) but have always called herself fat. For many of our dates, I’m the only one eating while she just orders coffee. This has been going on even before 11 years ago, so nothing new. She counts her calories, and does both restrictive eating and binge eating. Sometimes she goes on water diets (0 calories for 1 week straight), sometimes she does a “500-calorie per day” diet, and sometimes she eats so much to the point she is so bloated. Overall, everything was considered ok. She is a very cheerful person and not the type to dwell on negative feelings too much. Since her disordered eating and ‘extreme’ dieting was the ‘norm’, it didn’t affect her too much. She still mostly ate whatever she wanted, but just restricted either the portion or the number of meals per day. Again, all these are nothing new and have been happening for years. The first trimester was ok. She didn’t gain much. But by the second trimester, that was when shit really went down. So far, she has gained about 5kg. She cries every time she steps onto her weighing scale, and has been starving herself. She hates herself so much right now for having cravings and strong urges to binge eat. She is also very disgusted with how her pregnant body looks, and forces herself to vomit as well (she did purge during her uni days, but have since stopped and only relied on restrictive eating to control her weight. Now she has started purging again). To put things into perspective, someone with her BMI should ideally gain about 25KG. We are at our 6th month of the pregnancy and she has gained only 5kg. She’s worried that her actions may greatly affect the fetus’ health and development and has been trying to stop starving herself. However, she cries almost everytime she has to eat. I’m so worried for her and her mental health. The expectations placed upon her from my parents, her body changes, increased cravings, etc. also makes things worse. Her personality has completely made a 180 degree turn and she has become generally disengaged, depressed, lethargic, and has lost interest in many of her hobbies. Honestly, I wish she just aborted the baby during the first trimester. We should have seen this coming. I guess she felt pressured by both our parents and maybe societal standards to have children after marriage. But she is and has always been my number one priority. I don’t care if we never have a child, so long as she is okay. I can’t stand seeing her like this. It pains me to think that she has to suffer everyday and that she is no longer her cheerful and bubbly self. Her dieting is even more extreme than the ones before her pregnancy, and I hate that she has started purging again. I’m really worried for her and the baby. She is lethargic and weak almost everyday, and honestly I’m surprised she hasn’t miscarried yet. She cries everyday, and normally she rarely even cries. If I’m being REALLY honest, a small part of me wishes that she’d just miscarry so that this whole ordeal will be over. I am planning to get a vasectomy some time this year, so that this never happens again. It’s a reversible procedure anyway, so if she does get better and wants a child, we still can. I’m also planning to WFH more if my boss allows, as we prepare for the bigger incoming shitstorm that’s about to hit in the third trimester. I also don’t want her to be alone at home, even if that means taking a hiatus from working to be there for her (we have plenty of savings in our emergency fund so it should suffice for a while). This whole situation is screwed up to say the least. Any comforting words or advice are appreciated

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  • When there’s no spot check on undergraduates tutors...
    #7121funnyrant· 17h ago

    When there’s no spot check on undergraduates tutors on the tutorials they are conducting………… Student: Would there be a difference if we were to use method A to solve that part ? Tutor: You may try to Google it Student: Just thinking if I Google and know the difference would I need to attend the lesson? Tutor: Wells morale of the story is Google might be the best tutors Forever remember this tutorial lesson

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  • Is being given space and ignoring your partner...
    #7120adviceromance· 17h ago

    Is being given space and ignoring your partner after an argument even a thing? My partner does this thing where she just goes silent and doesn't even reply my text or text me when she's mad and it doesn't have to even be my fault. I am so tired and as each day passes I try not to care as much anymore and just let her be. I don't know how this will play out during marriage. I want to marry her and I love her but I can't see ourselves resolving issues if she constantly ignores me when she's upset. What happens after marriage when she has to see my face everyday and sleep the same bed? Anyone else married and in a similar situation? How do you deal with it?

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  • People think that Crypto is worst than Equities....
    #7119· 17h ago

    People think that Crypto is worst than Equities. That cant be further from the truth if you bought $1 of bitcoin at the peak of 64400usd on 12 Nov 2021, you would be left with 30cents (at the current price of 19294usd) - a loss of 70%. If you bought $1 of the top Singapore ride hailing firm G*** at peak price of 16.37usd on 12 Nov 2021, you be left with just 17cents (at the current price of 2.70usd) - a loss of 83%. Therefore mainstream tech stock can be more risky than mainstream crypto. But both will bounce back.

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