I would like to respond to #106309
I’ve got some things I would like to get off my chest.
NS - You’re right, women don’t have to serve NS. Honestly, I find that topic infuriating because I personally WANTED to sign on, but my parents refused because “I’m a girl”. The one who enforced that decision of having only dudes enlist is not even us, the common people.
Moving on, let’s not even talk about pregnancies - have you guys ever considered the pain that we have go through when we get our monthly periods? We have to put up with it from the age of 12, all the way till the ripe age of 40+. Do you expect us to fight a war or be on the fields when we’re barely able to walk at times? Heck, if I were given the opportunity to be a man without these monthly pains, I’ll gladly take it. I know it must be hard, but how about putting yourself in our shoes for a change, and consider the things we have to go through instead of complaining about how unfair it is?
Dating - I don’t know what kind of girls you’ve been dating, but the girls I know would rather do everything equally because they’re independent, strong women. But for those kind of girls that you’ve mentioned, I definitely don’t disagree that that’s freaking exhausting.
The counter argument is not completely wrong - because let’s be honest, we don’t see a lot of “fair distribution of chores and parenting”. Perhaps, women find it fair that guys put in more effort during the dating stage because later on in life, the women tend to do a lot of the heavyweight at home. But times are changing and I do notice a lot of younger couples are trying their best to split the burdens as equally as possible. However, guys are still not able to get a paternity leave as long as their wife’s maternity leave so that makes it a little hard. Life’s unfair that way, but I suggest you don’t think so much into it. If you’re gonna try nitpicking on having everything absolutely equal, you’re bound to find things that are unfair between the genders.
Workplace - I work in the STEM field, and I agree that I don’t see much pay differences between the males and the females. I don’t really pay much attention to the nitty gritty details about pay. BUT, the opportunities given for self-improvement are vastly different. Half the time, I’m dealing with mundane shit when the guys with the same job title are doing much more technical stuff. Yeah, maybe that’s why women aren’t joining the field, because the environment was never really inclusive to women and treating us like brain dead individuals? It’s a toxic cycle which seems never ending.
Other than that, your disappointment in the choosing of managers is valid. I’ve never personally experienced it, but I can only imagine how it would feel if you had lost to someone less capable.
In the end, yes - you’re bitter. You’re seeing it from the perspective of a male’s living experiences, but not considering what the other party goes through. Some of what you’ve said, I can agree. But some of your other concerns, are only surface-level issues which you deem as unfair without looking into the systemic/societal issues which lead to that unfairness. I’m sorry for the long rant, but I had to get this out of my chest. Especially with all the frustration I’m dealing with at work.
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