Wonder if there are any readers who remember these from the early days of NUSWhispers: 1) #buenoGirl and #buenoGuy/#buenoboy 2) Guy A vs Guy B 3) A monad is just a monoid in the category of endofunctors
I like to seek people's opinions as I am quite confused with my situation. I have been casually dating this girl for a while, and I get a strange feeling that I can't justify it to myself. Basically, she makes me feel that there is something wrong with me, and this is the first time I have faced such a situation. There were countless times when a situation played out, and she would make me feel like she wanted to see some sort of reaction from me. But I don't like to react to the situation, so I usually respond to them. It depends on how it played out. If the situation is something I think comes from a negative space and that I can respond to nonchalantly, that is what I would do. Otherwise, I would keep my distance if it comes from a headspace where it appears to be aggressive or an attack. But each time we talked about it, she would insist that I had some underlying problem. As though it is because other girls or friends are poorly treating me, or I could be in mental distress that resulted in my behavior. As this is relatively new to me, I was bought into it at first. But over time, I started suspecting that I was being brainwashed into thinking there was a problem with me? Additionally, she makes me feel like everything I do or the people around me are also problematic. I do think that I am much loved by people around me, be it family, friends, or even acquaintances that I met. They treated me kindly and with respect. And this is the first time I have been placed in such a self-doubt situation. It sucks, and it drains me because there is too much negativity and speculation around. She appears to be quite lovely, but this is the strange part. Because her action and how she makes me feel doesn't flow if you get it? If she is so lovely and her move comes from good intentions, why does it make me feel so shitty at the end of the day? I have tried to end things, but it doesn't seem to go anywhere either. Can someone give some words of wisdom as to why I feel this way and how I should go from here?
Is Tech salary too inflated and creating unrealistic unexpectation? I am earning high four figures every month but still feel envious of those engineers earning 15 to 20K USD in Big Tech.
Replying to #106581: https://www.NUSWhispers.com/confession/106581 Graduated from CS 5 years ago and I am in a position to hire some devs for my team. Maybe my view of the market is biased as I am only hiring for people with at least 3 years of experience, but I am still finding it extremely hard to hire. It takes months to hire a single engineer. I even actively combed layoff lists and out of 10 I reached out to, only 1-2 respond to me. We are offering >10k/month, before bonuses and equity, for 3 year experience and it only goes up from there, but candidates are not interested. Maybe that's because we are a startup...
as a young university graduate employee you may find yourself worried about retirement. retirement is nothing to worry about. all Singapore citizens and PR have this amazing pension plan called the CPF life. the trick to cpf hacking to meet "enhanced retirement sum" and "basic healthcare sum" is inaction. yes simply do nothing to your MA and SA. all you need to do is to earn a high income by age 30. ie. get a minimum of 6K monthly pay and total bonus of 5mths additional wages. ie 102,000 of your income must attract CPF. at this income, you will find yourself meeting basic healthcare sum easily. and the excess will be transferred to SA regularly. if you continue to attract 102,000 annual income, you will get enhanced retirement sum from just your SA alone, and from the automatic MA transfers to SA. just use your OA liberally for housing, and enjoy your quality of life. because your (SA+MA) will be able to hit (ERS+BHS) at age 55 anyway. you will get an annuity of 5k per month at age 65. TLDR: use the skills given by NUS to find a 6k/mth job with 5 months bonus per year & work for 30 years from age 25-55.
Dear someone, Idk if you will see this but It’s been a long time since we last spoke. Since u blocked me and we ended on a bad tune, I never reached out to u again so yah We met unexpectedly, and honestly idk how we got together, but it just happened haha. Perhaps, indeed I had a connection with u, back then. Well, u were a loyal and innocent woman, and that was actually perfect for me. I wanted to remain friends and keep looking out for u, but indeed u were not mature enough for that yet. I partially blame u for your own agony. My feelings for u were positive yet u consistently made it sound bad. Idk, maybe is just you dont know what is acceptable in a relationship lol Logically speaking, if my feelings for u are the same as my feelings for other girls, i dont see why i should hold on to u. I dont feel gratitude or love towards u so i did the right thing to breakup. Soon maybe u will learn why this was good for us Some areas for improvement, dont be so childish, insecure, foolish, petty and selfish. Well, if u still want a chat, I am open to it. I can tell u in detail about how u can be better. Whether u believe me or not, i was always giving in to u, from my perspective. A piece of advice for you, stop living in the past. Idk why u choose to live this way Goodbye
