TLDR: sweet looking girl emphasising that evergreen men are dealbreakers. Met a super cute girl online and went on a 1st date with her and vibe crazily well. She shared about her encounters with men and how they always hit on her and what not. Sounds very red flag but her cute outlook and gentle voice made me overlook anything that seems like a red flag and fall straight for her. She told me not to ask her about her sexual history and kept telling me how great her ex was. Even showed me a photo of him to prove how good looking he was. She held my hand on the 1st date. Left the 1st date missing her so much and wanting her badly. 2 days later we started texting more and she opened up more over text and kept sending me multiple photos of fit and handsome looking men who trains in the gym and offering her PT sessions for free. She kindly rejected these offers because these fit and handsome guys are sadly virgin. Again, big dealbreaker for her. I started to feel uncomfortable and decided ask her what is she looking for. She said she is looking for something serious and not into casuals. She friendzoned all the evergreen guys who tried to hit on her and did not do anything sexual with them even on a 1 to 1 holiday. They only did wholesome stuff. I wanted to cut her off, only to have her calling me with her sweet and gentle tone to tell me that her intention was to be open about her history and she didn’t mean to upset me or whatsoever. She even wrote a long text to illustrate every single details of our first date together and try to win me back. Guess what? I turned from thinking she was major red flag, to be smittened by her all over again. I fall even deeper in love with her and felt like I need to see her immediately. Need everyone here to advise. Do you think this girl is a red flag? Or everyone has their past and this should not matter? I’m in a crazy dilemma but I love to meet her over and over again to enjoy the sweet dating feel.
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