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  • Maybe it's time to let go
    #9445rant· 9h ago

    We met a while back and hit it off. Went on a few dates and sparks flew between us. You are not my type at all but it didn't bother me because I never had such incredible connection with anyone else. Not even my ex-es. I thought we were progressing well but alas, you ghosted me suddenly. It hurts. After months of silence, you resurrected with no remorse. I pushed you away because I didn't want to subject myself to emotional roller coaster. I lost faith in you. You breadcrumbed me over the months that followed but I wasn't affected. I thought I moved on. When I saw you again much later, I realised I still yearned for you. Since then, I couldn't get you off my mind. I decided to forget the hurt you caused and reach out. I asked you out but you rejected me gently each time. Looks like you have moved on while I am still hanging on to the possibility between us. Maybe it's time for me to move on too and stop bothering you. I wish you all the best.

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  • I'm want to get to know you but I don't know what to do!
    #9426advice· 9h ago

    There is a guy that I am curious about and I want to get to know better, but our positions at work make it difficult to get acquainted with each other. To sum it short, I work for the parent organisation and though we are around the same age (I am ~3 years younger), I am basically his boss' boss' boss. So any form of personal contact is overstepping boundaries. He has my number saved because of work, but we do not converse. I also do not save his number because I do not want to do anything suspicious. I only know he saved mine as I can see his phone number on telegram. I met him because the parent organisation goes to the smaller branches to do checks, though not frequent. I can count the number of times we interacted on one hand. Not saying that I want to pursue a romantic relationship with this person immediately ( I don't even know if he is attached), but I would love to get to know him better if given the chance as he seems like a very sweet and gentle person through our few interactions. It's been about 2 years and each time I've met him, I usually end up thinking about him for days, which explains this post. Any advice is appreciated please :(

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  • “Why do ______ like ______”
    #9421advicerant· 9h ago

    “Why do you like me?” Is there a good answer to this? I once asked someone who was chasing me “why do you like me”, and the response was “*shrug* you’re just kind of chill. And we can talk you know” Is it really that simple? It feels so different from what we’re told to look for. “Good salary and career”, “good looking”, “nice to talk to”. Maybe this is what I want to look for. Maybe this is what I want myself to be. Maybe I asked the question because I want to know what’s good about myself, about what’s lovable about me. I feel so lost.

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  • Impatient patient.
    #9418advicerant· 9h ago

    Hihi everyone (especially people who works in clinics/healthcare settings), Does your patients come straight to the reception counter requesting to pay for their medicines right after (like literally) they come out of the consultation room? (Like what makes them think that the medicines will be ready immediately right after they consult the Dr?) Please share.

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  • AITA?
    #9415advicerant· 9h ago

    I have a group chat with some close friends until someday the admin decided to add in a few of her own friends which kinda changed the dynamics of the group. The chat was constantly flooded with topics that are not known to most, like their own private jokes. It was weird sharing about our own life when people we don't know are inside, so gradually some stopped talking, including me. Leaving the chat was an option but I didn't because my friends are still inside. Then suddenly they started tagging us in the chat asking why we so quiet, which some gave reason they were busy with work and family, while some (including me) just didn't read since the chat was moving at a crazy speed. It's hard to catch up amidst the non-related chats ya. Then somehow the talkative ones are calling us out for ghosting them. So... Am I the a**hole here?

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  • Having Scars
    #9414rant· 9h ago

    Just a rant, looking for an outlet to vent. I once had a toxic relationship (in my 30s and the relationship went on for 3 years). She was controlling, demanding and overall a toxic person. It was rather strange because she wasn't like this before we became official. She started to demand that I am not supposed to interact with any females, even for work related correspondence. It really impeded my work since I am not supposed to communicate with any one of the opposite gender. It has affected me so much that my social skills has became non existence. I literally don't know how to communicate with anyone at all right now. I have became socially awkward to the point that I avoid any work related events or networking sessions. During the relationship, I was also prohibited from meeting any of my friends since she deemed them as bad influences. She would only allow me to hang out with friends that has her "stamp of approval". Even so, she would regularly call or text during this period of time. It was a must to reply her messages. If not, there will be a barrage of calls. It has gone to the point where I just stopped meeting any of my friends. For context, most of my friends are guys and I barely hangout with any females. I am also not allowed to have any hobbies at all. My hobbies are all normal, decent stuff like cooking, gaming, photography (of inanimate items and nature scenes, not shooting models or females). I was forced to deleted my personal and photography IG account. All my time must be spent of her. Meaning that even if we are not meeting, I am supposed to reply her text immediately. Hence, most of my free time are spent at home (since I can't hang out with friends or spend time on my hobbies) watching tv. Whenever she texts, I would pause my show and reply to her immediately. I basically have no life at all. Again, for context, I have not done anything to take her trust away. I have not cheated. I have treated her right, bought her high ticket items as gifts and whatnot. My hobbies were all fine before we became official as well. I really did not understand what made her banned me from doing things that I love. One thing that really got to me was how she hates and criticises my family. She often complains about how my family are just very rude in general. My family barely meets her let alone speaking to her. I really don't know where she's getting that from. She even went to the point of telling me no wonder my siblings have no friends at all since they are so rude. I have contemplated but has also tried breaking up with her on multiple occasions. But her toxic traits made it so difficult to. A plethora of emotional abuses and arguments. I have already took in many unreasonable requests (as mentioned above) but it's never enough for her. I have tried to unalive myself multiple times because I really couldn't take the stress and abuse. There are so many railroad tracks on my arms that I can't see myself wearing short sleeves shirts anymore just because I don't want my mom to see it. Frankly speaking, I really don't know what went wrong. I have done nothing bad to her at all and put her above everything else. I don't know what caused her become like this. I am just glad that it is over. With both the physical and mental scars, I really don't know how I am or when will I be ready to date again.

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