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  • Educated and unemployed feel bad for my kids
    #5995advicerant· 1h ago

    Some change in family situation and a toxic work environment made me quit my well paying job just before covid. ive been unemployed till now. My kids are in IHL. They feel bad asking me for money but no choice they need money. I sense them trying their best to stretch their pocket money i feel bad for them. But i lack the will or desire to work because i feel so down for all the shit in the past and also my age almost 50. I need to find the strength to hustle again because i cant bear seeing my children struggle. Sometimes i think in lieu of depression and anxieties God should just call me home now. Will solve our money problems, give kids the resources they need and me not waste time on earth. Do some good in death. I dont even hv energy to kill myself

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  • How do you deal with a bf with many exes?
    #5992advice· 1h ago

    This probably not a big deal but I been thinking about my bf’s past. I actually wish that he never told me about it. Sigh. He has bout 20+ exes (aka body count) over the years. He is 40 this year. There was one ex that last longest but in between they break and patch back several times. We have been together almost 2 years but I couldnt help and been thinking that im not going to be the last one for him. Feeling so insecure about this relationship and always sceptical whenever he says he is busy. Although he always assured to me that he has no time to find new gf, also tired to entertain any other girls. I cannot fully trust his words because when we first got together, he actually got a gf. He covered it so well that its until the girl text me then i know her existence. She uses his phone while he was asleep, found our chat knowing that im his “gf” too so eventually text me. Few months of two timings until the bubble burst then he break up with that girl and be with me. It took me a while to accept him back but deep inside i really mind and cant stop thinking about it. Also he last time got a fwb which they will have sxx on and off. He claims that they no longer in contact. How would i know if they still continue the situationship or not? I dont dare to check his phone because i really afraid i might see other girl text him. He changed his wallpaper to our pic to proof his “love” for me but wallpaper can be easily switch right? I ever noticed sometimes his wallpaper is plain thinking he might forgotten to change it back when he meets me. But he told me he was exploring his new phone, the wallpaper changed without him knowing. What an excuse right? (facepalm) It like being poisoned or cursed, I really like him tho and not planning to leave him. But the thinking of him not being faithful seriously affecting me. What should i do?

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  • Growing up years
    #5987· 1h ago

    I recall when I was a teenager around the age of 17, I did not go after brands for clothing. I come from a humble family and was thankful that I was fed and clothed well. My father was the only breadwinner and my mother took care of us. Feeling contented was the phrase I used to describe the thoughts I had then. However, I do remember one occasion where I had followed my school mates to do window shopping. They were after branded clothings and I didn’t have the means to buy. So they passed nasty remarks about me when I didn’t buy branded stuff like them. I knew my father had to work hard to provide for us. So I would not spend my pocket money carelessly. Till date, I still remember that I was bullied. The values they had were different from mine and we drifted and parted. Today, I would tell my children what bullying and intimidation are. Do not be afraid to speak up and distant from them. Do not be afraid to lose them as they do not have the right values in place.

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  • HDB bTO investment plan
    #5982· 1h ago

    Hi 27M here, just want to ask is it possible to find a girl to marry on paper in order to buy a bto, then each of us pay 50% of the bto, with no intimate r/s involved, basically me or the girl can bring any guy/girl home and the other party will not care as we are not in a real r/s, just being together on paper to buy a bto, then when the MOP is up we will sell the flat and split the proceeds 50-50, and then divorce. Would this be legal? Would it be realistic to be able to find a girl who be willing to hop into this 'investment' plan as well? As I cant stand living with my family and want to move out asap but dont qualify for bto as a single.

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  • Follow up to - Am I destined to be alone?
    #5981rant· 1h ago

    Thanks dear readers for the past comments and advices. Sorry that #5922 and #5924 are actually the same posts. I have accidentally wrote about myself repeatedly. I want to make some clarifications here as I may have missed out something when my post is short. I am in my fifties and my wife is in her forties. We are both not young anymore. My mum left me the flat, which was bought by my parents, it is under my name now, I have just given a share of it to my wife too, even my married siblings do not have a share in it, they have their own homes when they got married before me. It is right of me to keep this flat, not to sell it, and I do not feel good to rent the whole flat to anyone. I have hoped my wife would do the same like me, wherever we go away, we must make it a point to return to this flat at night. Everything is fine until Covid-19 came. My wife is required to work from home. She chose to work in her mother's place so that both she and her mother can take care of my son together. I would go there for dinner too, but I will go back to sleep in my own flat after dinner. Somebody have suggested that I stay over at my MIL's place too. I have thought about it, but as there's a saying "Easy to get along with, but hard to live with." Our living habits do have many differences. It will lead to many unnecessary arguments if I stay over at her place. Either I will feel uneasy there or they are not comfortable with me. My MIL, of cos, welcomes her daughter back home and she has suggested that I stay with her too. In whatever case, I would rather she is living happily when her daughter and grandson are by her side. My initial purpose of getting married to have someone to talk to me at home everyday is therefore put aside. I do not know how long that this situation will be over. But I do believe it will change again when my son has started to go to Primary School. I should be satisfied that she will still come home during weekends now. I am alone only for 5 nights per week, not 7/7. Thank you everyone.

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  • To OP #5937 about mummies support groupchat
    #5980rant· 1h ago

    I would like to back up your points on how these "support groups" consist on mean and bitcy women. My wife is in one. She used to be sweet and contented. After joining this group, she started all the comparison. She said all mummies had jujube bag and so she needed one for a diaper bag. What on earth is a jujube bag?! Why does it have to be a diaper bag? Can't we just use a normal bag as a diaper bag? It's not just the jujube bag, there are plenty of other things like tula carrier, photoshoot this photoshoot that in some well named studio. She's FOMO about it all because she said "everyone has it" "they met up and they all carried jujube bag". We had an argument over this thing called "push gift" which was a new concept for me. Apparently her "mummies friends" told her that husband should give the wife a push gift. I don't mind giving her gifts at all, but knowing that the reasoning was ridiculous and that all these friends told her to - I didn't feel like giving her any. How is a husband supposed to reward a wife for pushing the baby out? We paid for epidural. Her body naturally contracted and pushed out the baby. It's after all our baby. Yes, mine and hers. Why is this something to give a present for? So dear OP#5937, just quit! Because these mothers who always say "sharing is caring" but start to belittle you when you don't bitch and talk bad about your husband and in laws, are not your real friends. The environment inside is toxic and these few "top active mummies" are boliao.

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