• Any one experienced with losing money in a crash?
    #4544advice· 17h ago

    Hi people, my fellow Singaporean, I’m a poor dude, been poor since very young. Recently crashed all my life saving + licensed money lender loan in Luna crash. Around 50k debt, what should I do? I’m so tired and loss, been crying everyday since awake. Felt life is so meaningless, any experienced people able to share some highlight on this?

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  • I am married for a few years now...
    #4543funny· 17h ago

    My wife doesn't remember my IC, phone number, barely remembers my birth date, doesn't even know when we got married and our anniversary date... How long should I ask her to sleep on the sofa?

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  • Single for a while but started to fall for an older colleague
    #4542advice· 17h ago

    hey, I am a 22M (not from SG but I'm working here now) and wanted to get your advice on something. so I've been through some really bad and toxic relationships and have chosen not to date for the past few years because of that. however, there has been this colleague (26F) that I have been really attracted to, and recently I moved to the same department as her and we got a lot closer. I'm really attracted to this girl and she is everything that I've been looking for, kind, smart, mature, funny, confident, I just can't really find a flaw. we also share a lot of the same values, but I see two massive red flags, the first being our age difference. I feel like I am too young for her and she would feel like she is dating a child if she got with me. And second, I realise that I have somewhat put her on a pedestal and I foresee that this might cause some toxicity in me to arise if we were to date. for these reasons I chose not to pursue her even though she is literally my ideal type of partner. at the same time, I started using dating apps a few months ago, and I met this other girl, who is still a student (22F). i felt somewhat attracted to her, and we went on a few dates. I was deciding whether to get into a relationship with her, because it's been a long time since I've met someone I feel like I could actually get into a relationship with (other than my colleague), and I didn't want to miss this opportunity just because of my colleague, which I didn't think would progress anyway. so after around 1 month, the 22F girl sort of put pressure on me to get into a relationship, and I ended up asking her to be my gf in the heat of the moment. immediately though, I felt like I didn't put enough thought into it and kind of regretted it, so I explicitly said "let's test things out and end things if they don't work". the above happened 2/3 weeks ago, and the more I think about it the more I think I have made a mistake. My gf and my background is quite different, and the differences in our values are starting to show. At the same time, I am getting closer with my colleague and I feel extremely guilty for wasting my gfs time. but I also don't want my gf to think I was just playing with her and that's why I want to give this relationship a shot before ending it. It's just been 2/3 weeks and I don't want wanna be that guy you know. I think I already know what I should do, but I feel like an asshole no matter what I do. just wanted to open up here and let you guys rip me a new one to give me some confidence to do the right thing. Thanks

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  • hi everyone, would like to seek opinions if...
    #4554· 17h ago

    hi everyone, would like to seek opinions if is it normal for my boyfriend to reject my s**ual advances? As everytime when im at his place or he is at my place and my parents arent home and i try to ask him to do it with me, he rejects me and says he wants to wait till we're married before doing it. I'm his 1st girlfriend and his 27, and we've been together for 2 years already so I dont know why is he so shy, is my boyfriend secretly gay? As i cant think of any guy who would reject their girlfriend when their girlfriend is the one initiating it, and i did say whether he wants to use a cond*m anot it is up to him, but he acts like a wuss and keeps rejecting me, how do i get him to man up and do it?

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  • How do you guys feel about dating...
    #4553advice· 17h ago

    How do you guys feel about dating white people? And how to approach the subject with relatives/ extended family. Currently am dating a white guy and extended family seem to be a bit shocked. My mum always seems to be surprised about what my bf does for me as it doesn’t suit the ‘white stereotype’. The other day she made a comment about how surprised she is that a white guy has been dating an Asian for so long ???? like are interracial relations taboo or something ?

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  • NUSWhispers should become a partial platform to single...
    #4552advice· 17h ago

    NUSWhispers should become a partial platform to single men and ladies to matchmake. I am a seldom reader but sometimes come here to read the stories of people which they will not tell others and maybe seek help here. And i see a lot of cries of single men and women saying they have been alone/lonely since forever. I myself have been single and alone for 31years and pretty much know i wont find my Miss Right. Idea?

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