Another "fml i have no friends" confession - but in my case, I feel like I have truly exhausted all options. 3 years in SMU and still have not found uni friends that I can meet regularly, eat or study or book GSR with. There are some I keep in contact with but not at a 'good friends' kind of frequency. It's quite frustrating because I've really put myself out there and made effort to get to know people, reach out, suggest meetups. I would sit next to new ppl every mod but the convo always dies. Group project members vanish the moment the mod is over. I joined 3 orientation camps in freshman year, 2 CSPs, have previously committed to 3-4 acad + non-acad CCAs I am genuinely interested in, and even became exco for some of them. The convos I got to have with these people were not purely about work either, there was lots of fun and even some deeper emotional talk. Yet despite all that, no one has really stuck around. I don't mean to discourage anyone, but I've p much done everything that IG comments on similar confs suggest and put my authentic self into these activities. On paper my school life looks crazy, but at the end of the day I am walking around campus solo 85% of the time. I'm graduating soon and honestly, I am tired of trying so hard when it feels like ppl dont reciprocate much and would rather stick to their own friend groups. It's strange because I have friends outside of uni, so I dont think I am struggling because I have weird, niche interests or am particularly socially problematic. I dunno if there's something wrong with me, or if I just have terrible luck. Anyone empathise with this or have advice for my situation? Hope to hear another perspective. 🙏
The unlucky guy ·Hi, saw ur post and thought maybe i should also share with u my story too. A year 3 IS student here and still have not found any uni friends that I can meet regularly, eat or study either. Same as u, i still keep in contact with some of them but not to the extent that we are on a 'good friends' frequency too. During my 3 years in uni, I've tried to put in effort to take initiative in asking people out but to no avail. I guess I'm also gonna graduate without making any true friends here in uni However, this also allows me to understand one thing: always learn to be happy doing things alone. We have done our part. We have put in effort. We tried to keep the conversations going with every person that we meet but if they choose to ignore that and stick to their own grps of friends, there's nothing we can do. I don't regret not making any friends in uni because at least i know i tried. Of course, i believe that everyone in this world hopes to have friends that they can hang out with frequently but this is what life is all about. At least i know i am not alone. There are people out there who's just like me. So be happy and all the best to u
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