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We were together for many years. He has a wife and daughters. I knew from the beginning there was no future, no promises. But I fell in love anyway. He was my best friend before anything else. Good looking, doing well in his career. I never intended to fall for him — I just liked him as a person. What started as friends with benefits turned into real emotions, and before I knew it, I was in too deep. All along, he gave me every boyfriend and girlfriend treatment. We celebrated birthdays, Christmas, Valentine's Day together. He once said: "We are in a relationship, committed to each other in a way." It never felt casual — not even once. He only texted on working days. I complied. We only met during office hours — lunch breaks, or taking leave in the day to be together. Other than our trips, we probably only had dinner together 10 to 20 times in 2 years plus. When he went home at night, our conversation ended. When I was sick, I didn't dare message him. I stopped wearing perfume when we met — because his wife had once questioned why there was a perfume smell on the seat belt. He used to say he didn't want to waste my time. But at the same time, he kept giving me just enough — special treatment, saying he missed me, being intimate with me — just enough to make sure I could never really move on or open my heart to anyone else. I gave 100%. No demands, no drama. I was afraid that if I asked for too much, he would leave. For almost 10 months he kept saying he was planning a trip for us. I waited. I even hoped we could celebrate my 30th birthday together. On 27 May, he sent 3 messages: *"My wife found out about us. I can't meet or see you anymore."* *"I can't be faithful anymore."* *"I need to bring my family back together again."* I replied saying I respected his decision. And I never heard from him again. I am okay with the breakup — even though I was dying inside. What I cannot accept is how he did it. Yes, what we had was morally wrong. But after 2 years plus, I deserved at least a proper goodbye. He is well respected by everyone around him. People see him as a true gentleman. On top of his day to day career, he also serves as a high ranking reservist officer. But this is who he really is behind closed doors. Actually, I was heartbroken. I cried like crazy for the past one month. I ended up having to go to the hospital. I know what we did was wrong. I'm sorry to his wife. And I'm sorry to myself — for wasting 2 years plus on a man who couldn't even give me a proper goodbye. To every girl out there — a man's character goes far beyond what he shows on the outside. You only see who he really is when he is put in a difficult situation. Never fall for someone married. No matter how real it feels, to them, you will always be the one easiest to let go.