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Sorry, this is quite long. I would like to share my experience being infatuated with a colleague. She can be considered one of my good friends at work even though she's quite new working less than 2 years. She's the type of girl who is friendly, kind and fun to be around. Naturally it's easier to get close to this type of person. At first we weren't really close, but recently became close due to the same deployment at work. As we get each other numbers, we texted frequently. To the point in less than 2 months we called one another "honey" and "baby". And whenever we meet up would flirt with each other playfully. I didn't realised this, but slowly I began to miss her when she's not around. She will also update me on whatever personal issues. Anyway sometimes when she sees me close to some other colleagues, she would always told me "U are not allowed to be close to others, u are mine only". This made me think that she likes me the way I like her. We also have a mutual close friend whom she likes to share her issues with. But she is closer to me in terms of contact. Recently instead of spending time with me during her break, she chose to go spend time with the other friend, even though both their locations are quite far. I was nearer to her. And of course I thought she will naturally wanted to spend time with me. When I found out though that she chose to find the other friend, I was quite angry and annoyed. She knew I was finding her beforehand, yet she proceeded without telling me. After that she knew I was angry and she tried to explain during a call. I just told her she should just be honest and told me she was going to find the other friend, instead of keeping it from me. She kept saying "sorry baby". Then we ended the call as we had other duties. The thing is, I wasn't able to move on after that. I knew she already said sorry, but i keep thinking about it. And i felt so much hurt and sadness knowing she didn't choose to spend time with me. I keep replaying the situation to the night. And the hurt feelings didn't subside. Now I was thinking, is this how feelings of infatuation and attachment ended up? Was she playing with my feelings all these time, knowing fully well how much i trust her? Was she misleading me with her closeness? I'm writing this now at 1.30am. And this issue happened during the day actually. Till now I'm feeling hurt. I decided to grieve and listen to sad songs. And also to share my experience. What do u people think? Can anyone answer the above questions? Thanks for reading :)