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I was recently divorced and I have a handicap daughter whom I have custody of. I got to know a 41 year old interventional cardiologist on a dating site, post divorce. At first, I thanked my lucky stars that this guy seemed to understand me. He has good taste in music, is very sporty (plays soccer regularly) and he keeps fish and rays as a hobby. He seems like a total package. He seems to enjoy all the activities that I enjoy too. For me, it is red wine and sake. He would often tell me about his exes and even the people that he worked with. At the end of two weeks of knowing him, the red flags start to appear. He would paint his exes and colleagues as bad guys. That he is the holy one who can’t do any wrong. That everyone else is bad. I find myself stroking his ego and reassuring him all the time. He also calls himself God. That he loves when he arrives late to the operating theatre and cath lab and have everyone waiting for him like he is the king. At first I thought he was very into me but he starts to compare me with other women in his life. He calls them the xiao mei mei. These are the stent reps who wants him to buy stents from them. He would go on and on about how they are “low class women” and that he only dates high class women. However, it was much later that I realise he is actually sleeping with them or at least up to hanky panky with them during his conferences abroad or in car parks or hotels for “quickies”. I found out later from his colleague whom I happen to know but he doesn’t know that I know, that he is actually married (to another doctor) and has two young sons. That’s when I realise he was not truthful about many things and I investigated further. He also sleeps around with his former schoolmate, ex colleagues apart from stent reps. All in, he seems very entitled and is always lying non stop. I actually caught him hanky panky in an elevator without him knowing that I saw and when I called him, he lied about it. Be very careful about players in Singapore. In my opinion, more than a few doctors are players and they are highly selfish because they think they are God for saving lives and are surrounding by women sales reps and assistants/ nurses. They are emotionally unavailable and would hop onto a new woman once the chase is over. He is forever seeking only thrills and attention. The lying and deception is what drove me to write this.