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Kay, a 40 year old woman with 2 children is having a relationship with a 60 year old man, widowed. It started when they were chatting over social media platforms. They shared many same interests and thoughts which led to personal issues. Kay, who is lonely and feels neglected by her husband since her second born daughter (3 years ago). They didn’t communicate only on issues involving the family or home. She tried many times to talk to him but was brushed off with excuses of him being “tired”. She tried so many ways and to the extend of looking pretty and sexy.. Nonetheless, she realised that her marriage is based on her children and husband is for the “provider”. Intimacy between them has long gone no matter how hard she tried and to the extend of leaving him, but he refused stating that he “loved” her and his children. There is no signs of him having any affairs or medical issues.. things just stayed that way. Kay, who is in corporate position feels “empty”. Life is just juggling between work, children and home. Her husband is just a co-sharing person in the household. Back to the man that she communicates in social media, they exchanged numbers and started to communicate via WhatsApp. She feels safe whenever they talk and knowing that he is 20 years older with experienced in relationships and he, too is lonely since his wife’s death 6 years ago. Time after time, they met and had intimate relationships that led to sexual contact. It was an experience that she thought was amazing and she had the ability to fulfil her needs. At the same time, feeling guilty whenever she is back home. The same guilt was expressed by the man as he felt as a “home wrecker “ and isn’t right for him to lead her in the first place. Both are guilty. Time passes by, Kay has stopped seeing that man as he finally managed to find a partner, a wife. Kay? She is now as she is. “ happy” with her children and her “dead” husband.