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Hi all, I'm getting married to a foreigner and recent events has made me quite nervous about our future life together. Since we started dating, we know we wanted to leave SG and try life in his hometown, where his parents actually has a small house for us to potentially restore and be our forever home. Unfortunately, they decided to sell the place due to financial hardship and immediate need for liquidity (medical). We actually have been living together overseas and the parents' reason for selling was also because we don't work near their town (we are in a mid-sized city but were going to move back once we got married, he just proposed). For context, he is not SG PR so cannot BTO anyway which puts us in a pickle because resale prices are too expensive for us unless we go some ulu estate.. But now I feel like it no longer makes sense to stay in his country if we have no leg up so we are forced to choose as housing is not that cheap (comparable to SG, only slightly more affordable), so whether we buy a resale in SG or in his country it's lifetime commitment either way. I am not sure what to do. I feel like a gold digger in a way because I only was okay dating and falling in love with him for some level of security due to the house (of course that's not the only reason, but housing is a big worry for me from the start for obvious reasons). Now it's like a massive shift in life plans and I am not so confident of our success or happiness in the immediate future. All my friends are Sgreans couples so they don't understand what it's like to not have affordable BTO as an option. This situation doesn't change my feelings for him as a person, but I am just very worried about our future. Now I don't know whether to come back SG or stay in his country. Being in Singapore comes with its own set of problems and with the PR pipeline being impossible now due to competition, I get very nervous about telling him not to worry and SG has our back (because it doesn't...). I feel like at the end of the day, we will end up buying a place in his country but not his hometown. So this might be a silver lining as we have more freedom now. But wow housing prices globally is sad. We will have to delay having children now and a part of me feels sad about it, but I rather be financially responsible. Thank you for reading my story.