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I have a female friend (I'll call her Mia for reference). We're pretty close. For many years, things has been fine between us. Normal hangouts. Nothing more, nor less. One day, she got into a relationship with this guy. Since then, everyday, she always talk to me about her bf. Everyday, like how great of a bf he is, how he treats her well, buys for her anything she asked, his hobbies, etc. Being her close friend, I just listen. I'm happy that she's happy, and well, I get to know her bf via her telling me about him almost everytime. Almost a year passed, one day, Mia distance herself from me. Avoided me. I thought maybe she needed time alone for whatever reason. But after like 3 weeks, I noticed a pattern where she's fine with everyone, but avoided me. I decided to confront her, and just asked her if she's okay, and if I did anything wrong. She finally opens up and say I did nothing wrong, but she just wants to "respect my relationship with my gf". But...what gf? I don't have any. I told her that, and she didn't believe me. She said she felt really sad to know that I have a "gf" and she said she feels like our friendship is falling apart. But...again, I don't have a gf. Then I started to think, maybe her bf doesn't want her to be close to me anymore and she just made up some excuses to not be friends with me or at least be as close to me. I mean, if that's the case then sure, I'll respect it and walk away. But nope. She said her bf has nothing to do with this. She then wishes me well with my "gf"...which I have none. Turns out, after I ask some friends about this, there was a rumor circulating amongst my friends that I have a gf all because they saw that I was "hanging out" with this other girl for a week or so (a big deal to them cause I was never in a relationship). Thing is, this "other girl" is my colleague from work, and the "hangout" was at a public space, like coffee shop and all, cause we were meeting various clients from place to place. Especially for that one week, it was hectic. She's married with 2 kids too. Even if she's single, I have 0 interest in her cause of interest difference. But hey we're cool either ways. So I cleared that up. But, I haven't cleared it up with Mia...cause...this is where I have questions. Why was Mia upset? I mean, even if I have a gf, wouldn't she be happy about it? Wouldn't she wants to get to know her? I mean, she talks about her bf every single day to me. And I'm fine. I listen, and I'm happy. But, a mere rumor that I have a gf, and she decided to...distance herself, avoid me, and be upset. I don't get it...like, did I do anything wrong here? At any angle? I'm insanely confused cause her reaction to the rumors, even if its true, makes no sense....so, help this confused guy to understand :(