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I met someone during a very difficult season of her life. She was going through a separation, and over time we became close. It started with simple check-ins, conversations, and being there for each other… and somewhere along the way, feelings developed. Nothing inappropriate happened. But emotionally, it became something more than just casual friendship. The thing is her situation was (and still is) complicated. There were moments of connection, then moments of distance. At one point, her husband even got involved, and things turned ugly. That was a wake-up call for me. Recently, we both acknowledged the truth: this isn’t the right time. She’s still transitioning, healing, figuring things out. And I realised I don’t deserve to be in a position where things are unclear, inconsistent, or potentially messy. So we agreed to stop. For now. But if I’m being honest, it’s not easy. Especially during this Raya period. I know she’s feeling it more too, with children involved and the shift from what used to be a family routine. For me, life has always been simpler in that sense, so I process things differently. What makes it harder is knowing that their marriage had already been on the edge long before I came into the picture — yet somehow, I’ve been painted as part of the reason things fell apart. I know the truth, and she knows the truth. But it’s still uncomfortable being seen that way by others, especially when you were just trying to be there for someone. At the same time, I know stepping back is the right thing to do. Not just for her, but for me too. I value clarity, stability, and doing things the right way. I guess I’m just trying to process this: How do you let go of something that felt real, even if it came at the wrong time? Would appreciate thoughts from anyone who’s been through something similar.