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  • I am horrified at many critical whispers on...
    #11893· 19h ago

    I am horrified at many critical whispers on the embedded engineering career in the last months. I have been offered an embedded position that is due to start after my final exams are over. I was told I will be working primarily on firmware with an occasional board layout design if required. The pay is at the median for an EE fresh grad. Can I have an candid assessment on the prospects of this line of work? I hope people who have actual industry experience in embedded or engineering line can contribute their honest feedback.

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  • Hi,...
    #11892advicerant· 19h ago

    Hi, I have a Grandmother who is being financially abused by my maternal aunty and uncle. They treat her like a walking ATM and borrowed thousands of dollars from her amounting to 90k until she has only 1.5k left in her bank! The elders have known about this wrongdoing but have chose to remain quiet as they are scared of my uncle. My grandma confided in all of the elders but none dared to speak up for her and confront my aunty and uncle. They waited and shared gossip about my aunty and uncle's elder mistreatment and financial abuse of my grandma to the young generation of the family. I became so angry because they even tried to ask my parents to ask me to lend them 9k after knowing my income. They wanted to borrow 9k from me to fund or sponsor their son's wedding. I refused to lend them and after 1 year in 2024, my uncle still be sarcastic and said to my dad "woah she can spend on her cats but can't even lend her own uncle 9k". After I refused, they borrowed 4k from my grandma and then they paid after they get back the angpao wedding money. But my grandma said weeks later, my uncle came down to her house to ask for her card and she check weeks later that her 4k is no longer there. They even went down to my parents house and remanded my mother to surrender her gold jewelry to which my mom said she does not have any. What should I do in this case? Should I Report my greedy gold digging uncle to the police? Will the police able to punish him? This elder financial abuse or exploitation been happening before I was even born and I am 25 years old. My aunt claimed she does not know of her husband's wrongdoing but I am sure she is complicit.

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  • Hello Everyone. I like to ask something regarding...
    #11891advice· 19h ago

    Hello Everyone. I like to ask something regarding about finding job in Government sector. I had a medical record at IMH after I was graduated. I went to IMH as outpatient due to my parents being trapped in Myanmar due to military coup and I feel worried and anxious for my parents. I couldn't even contact them that time. I went to IMH and doctor said I am having depression and anxiety. After one month, she called me how is everything and told me that I am fine and closed my case. May I know whether I should declare this to government when finding job there or signing on? Will there be a record left ?Other than that I have no other previous records.

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  • My husband is in a physically demanding job....
    #11890rant· 19h ago

    My husband is in a physically demanding job. He is a postman. It is, well, by right, a 7-5pm 5 day work week job but due to the low wage yet physically demanding, shitty management, not many people opt to work hence he has to OT 2-3 hours everyday. I have a mentally and sometimes physically demanding job. I work office hours, 5.5 days a week and studying part time 3 days a week for my bachelor’s. We have a 4 year old together. I takes care of her most of the time. She doesn’t get to see her dad, my husband, often as he leaves for work at 6am and always comes home after 7pm. Only during good days, he will come home at 6pm. Housework is taken care of by my husband. I do help out when needed, like vacuuming the house everyday after coming home from work, clearing the cat litters. Showering and feeding our kid is under my care. Only sometimes our LO will request for her dad and he will grumpily do it. He states that he is exhausted and having migraines and I kept nitpicking on him. My husband hates doing the dishes but he is the one using most of the tableware and he will just leave it in the sink. He doesn’t even offer to do them until I called him up on it. He can cook and leave the pan onto the stovetop, let me know that he wants to lie down and he fell asleep till the next morning for work. I should also mention that he hates me studying as he has to handle everything. I told him he agreed for me to study when we were discussing about it. He said yes but he is still unhappy about it. He can’t help feeling annoyed or upset every time I have to leave for school. So now, me and our LO will only able to interact with him in the evening, and our LO will keep coming up to me while I am trying to clean up or something saying “Daddy tired. Daddy don’t want play. I want mummy” and I can’t do anything after. I scolded my husband telling him to play with our LO and she misses him. He hasn’t seen her the whole day and when he does, he can’t handle her bundle of joy. Now my husband is telling me he is upset because I kept telling him off when he has a shit week at work and he wants my support buy where is mine?? I wanted to hire a part time helper for the weekends, he didn’t want me to. He, as the owner has to take care of his own house but bro, you are struggling. I can’t help out much as I hate housework (basic cleaning can lah. deep scrubbing all pfftt..nah) so I am trying to help by paying someone professional! My idea got shut down. Even when I am studying or having zoom meetings, LO will barge in the room and husband will just say “she wants you” and left her to be with me. I kept insisting he needs a job change if he can’t handle it or we need to employ some help. You go out and don’t come home until the cleaner leaves but noooooo….. Now I am just being whatever lah. I will pick up on the household workload. No point telling him anything right? Cause ai am in the wrong here. His feelings are the only one valid here. I can’t be emotional. ????????

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  • I'm a full time working mum with ...
    #11879advicerant· 17d ago

    I'm a full time working mum with good prospect, earning more than my husband. My husband is a Grab Driver. However he rarely drive because he always claimed tired despite he no full time job and he never help in household chores. Everyday after work, once reach home, I started to do all the household chores myself. He never helps. From vacuum, mop floor to laundry & etc, he never help once since 9 years ago we moved into our new bto. I paid all the household expenses, I do all the household chores and I revise & guide my 2 kids for their homework everyday. I take care every single things for the family, without the help of my husband. I felt very upset and I started to develop bad temper. He knows I'm angry but he still never offer to help. Yet he told the kids I'm angery and get crazy for nothing. I feel utterly upset. Imagine he is in my role, I think he will get crazy long ago. He can't even offer to help anything. And he knows I got very serious scoliosis. He found that I always bad temper and always said something sacarstic towards me. If I'm working full time and pay for all the single household expenses, he shares the household chores, I'm really happy with it. But he never even offer to pay any household expenses, despite I told him everything price rise. If you were me, will you in good mood? I felt exhausted ann I'm cryinf everyday. I feel hopeless...

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  • Update for #108574:...
    #11875adviceromance· 19d ago

    Update for #108574: Hi all, thank you so much for your responses! I read all of them, even the 'direct' ones and I appreciate them. It's my first relationship and his too, so I probably did not act appropriately in that scenario. :X I just wanted to help him with his grief despite the fact that I have no experience with it. It's just surreal to see him, my 'smiley mountain' be in the depths of sadness. Some of the comments really hit the hammer on the head. He does have trust issues regarding anything. Always advises me not to be 'gullible' and do proper research on things that I'm unfamiliar with. And not to place myself in situations where I am not the one in control. Oh, and that people are generally horrible. Although I've never seen him treat anyone negatively before. :p After talking to his aunt, I understand why he ended up this way. He was left alone at home a lot when his dad goes out to drink with his friends and when he comes back, often physically abused him. So he often goes out a lot at night to escape his house AT THE AGE OF 8 YEARS OLD. My jaw literally dropped when I heard this. Spent his childhood in those 'computer cafes', which was probably where he picked up his computer hobby. His grandma, aunt and uncle had to pick him up back to their house because he had nowhere to go after the cafe closes. They also told me that there were a lot of bad influences from these places but he wasn't affected. She described him as '出淤泥而不染', that's why they adore him. My boyf has never told me these stories before and I wouldn't have known either if not for his family. We have just a 3 year age gap but the difference in our life experience is vast... The comment about the childhood really strikes true. He has close to zero social media presence and also has a really small circle of friends (only 3 guys) that he met from his games but he recently stopped playing games and have been focusing on his work a lot (keeps OTing). He says there's a big project but you know... Anyhow, we haven't talked about the incident that happened. He just returned hours later after what happened (he probably slept) and acted like nothing happened. Recently, I offered him to sleep over at my house and he accepted, so far it's going good...? I noticed that he secretly cried in his sleep yesterday. Initially, I wanted to leave him alone due to the advice given by you guys but I really want to just hug and console him if you get what I mean? What should I do?! :< I would greatly appreciate more relationship advice to strengthen my bond with him. Thank you again for reading my post.

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