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  • hi everyone, would like to seek opinions if...
    #4554· 17h ago

    hi everyone, would like to seek opinions if is it normal for my boyfriend to reject my s**ual advances? As everytime when im at his place or he is at my place and my parents arent home and i try to ask him to do it with me, he rejects me and says he wants to wait till we're married before doing it. I'm his 1st girlfriend and his 27, and we've been together for 2 years already so I dont know why is he so shy, is my boyfriend secretly gay? As i cant think of any guy who would reject their girlfriend when their girlfriend is the one initiating it, and i did say whether he wants to use a cond*m anot it is up to him, but he acts like a wuss and keeps rejecting me, how do i get him to man up and do it?

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  • How do you guys feel about dating...
    #4553advice· 17h ago

    How do you guys feel about dating white people? And how to approach the subject with relatives/ extended family. Currently am dating a white guy and extended family seem to be a bit shocked. My mum always seems to be surprised about what my bf does for me as it doesn’t suit the ‘white stereotype’. The other day she made a comment about how surprised she is that a white guy has been dating an Asian for so long ???? like are interracial relations taboo or something ?

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  • NUSWhispers should become a partial platform to single...
    #4552advice· 17h ago

    NUSWhispers should become a partial platform to single men and ladies to matchmake. I am a seldom reader but sometimes come here to read the stories of people which they will not tell others and maybe seek help here. And i see a lot of cries of single men and women saying they have been alone/lonely since forever. I myself have been single and alone for 31years and pretty much know i wont find my Miss Right. Idea?

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  • A Journey of discovering myself. ...
    #4551advicerant· 17h ago

    A Journey of discovering myself. I’m a guy in my early 20s and I am wondering if there are any like myself or have experienced these crises. From secondary school till post NS, I have never had any particular interest or passions in any topics/fields and as such never found this so-called motivation/drive in life. I have never been academically good in any subjects as well so when people ask what I wanna do in future, I can only say “ I’m not sure “ especially when it’s usually “Do what you love or what you are good at” I feel like I’m floating through life and the waters are stirring ever so chaotically; repeated bear markets in both stocks & crypto, a world at war, inflation, having to pay for rent, uni fees & daily expenses and to top it all off, worrying about whether I can afford my own house in the future when I have been perpetually single. Things seem real difficult and while I am ranting here, I am also thankful that I kinda have the means to survive and even have the chance to enrol in a uni. However, sometimes when i see how well others are doing in life, especially those whom have had the chance to start off from a better footing in life, I wonder from time to time whether I too would be able to climb the ladder of life and not just before we d*e. While I know that these too shall pass, I would like to know if there’s any advice from those who’re more experienced? Or perhaps if there any kindred souls around?

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  • Comparing between full-time and part-time grad students in...
    #4550adviceask-prof-benfunnyrantromancenostalgia· 17h ago

    Comparing between full-time and part-time grad students in NUS: what are some differences in perks enjoyed by the former? Are part-time grad students allowed to access the libraries? Any restrictions on the supposed privileges for part-time grad students? Given that part-time grad students actually pay more tuition fees overall, there shouldn’t be any differences…right?

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  • I would like to respond to #106309...
    #4549rant· 17h ago

    I would like to respond to #106309 I’ve got some things I would like to get off my chest. NS - You’re right, women don’t have to serve NS. Honestly, I find that topic infuriating because I personally WANTED to sign on, but my parents refused because “I’m a girl”. The one who enforced that decision of having only dudes enlist is not even us, the common people. Moving on, let’s not even talk about pregnancies - have you guys ever considered the pain that we have go through when we get our monthly periods? We have to put up with it from the age of 12, all the way till the ripe age of 40+. Do you expect us to fight a war or be on the fields when we’re barely able to walk at times? Heck, if I were given the opportunity to be a man without these monthly pains, I’ll gladly take it. I know it must be hard, but how about putting yourself in our shoes for a change, and consider the things we have to go through instead of complaining about how unfair it is? Dating - I don’t know what kind of girls you’ve been dating, but the girls I know would rather do everything equally because they’re independent, strong women. But for those kind of girls that you’ve mentioned, I definitely don’t disagree that that’s freaking exhausting. The counter argument is not completely wrong - because let’s be honest, we don’t see a lot of “fair distribution of chores and parenting”. Perhaps, women find it fair that guys put in more effort during the dating stage because later on in life, the women tend to do a lot of the heavyweight at home. But times are changing and I do notice a lot of younger couples are trying their best to split the burdens as equally as possible. However, guys are still not able to get a paternity leave as long as their wife’s maternity leave so that makes it a little hard. Life’s unfair that way, but I suggest you don’t think so much into it. If you’re gonna try nitpicking on having everything absolutely equal, you’re bound to find things that are unfair between the genders. Workplace - I work in the STEM field, and I agree that I don’t see much pay differences between the males and the females. I don’t really pay much attention to the nitty gritty details about pay. BUT, the opportunities given for self-improvement are vastly different. Half the time, I’m dealing with mundane shit when the guys with the same job title are doing much more technical stuff. Yeah, maybe that’s why women aren’t joining the field, because the environment was never really inclusive to women and treating us like brain dead individuals? It’s a toxic cycle which seems never ending. Other than that, your disappointment in the choosing of managers is valid. I’ve never personally experienced it, but I can only imagine how it would feel if you had lost to someone less capable. In the end, yes - you’re bitter. You’re seeing it from the perspective of a male’s living experiences, but not considering what the other party goes through. Some of what you’ve said, I can agree. But some of your other concerns, are only surface-level issues which you deem as unfair without looking into the systemic/societal issues which lead to that unfairness. I’m sorry for the long rant, but I had to get this out of my chest. Especially with all the frustration I’m dealing with at work.

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