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In response to a post I saw about dating: I think that the dating scene is somehow getting from bad to worse. From friends sharing that they've dated married men with kids unknowingly, to my own experience, it feels scary. I can't help but think that the laws here are just trying to protect the wrong people, because technically, you can't expose their names due to doxxing laws. However I realised that those who speak up usually have got proof of their accusations. In my experience, I dated a stalker from an app. He was perfect in every way at the start. The stalker would stalk my friends and family online, and attempt to leave messages about my "cheating attempts" using fake accounts. This happened whenever I had to consult with my group members while doing school projects. The stalker would also use those accounts to message me and send screenshots of all my online activity. It took me a year to find out that my partner was behind the harassment. After breaking up, the harassment got worse and I made a police report. When it didn't work, I uploaded all the acts of harassment online and he too, made a police report. Ironically, because the stalker identified himself to be my ex-partner, the police told me to take down what I uploaded instead. I have more than ample reason to believe that the stalker was my ex-partner. From knowing where I newly moved to and my personal life, it just creeps me out that I am getting stalked this way. I used to update my partner on my location, and he was the only one who knew, and yet, the stalker knew about it too. I know I could have filed a protection order but how do I ever prove that he has breached it if all he ever used were new accounts and all he could do to us now was to message us? And so, I just block the accounts off whenever I see them. It's been a year and my family is still getting friend requests from new accounts with his name. You might wonder, if all he did was to add and message us, what harm could he possibly deal? No one likes scrutiny. And to top it off, he would often message himself with my name, file a police report citing harassment, and I would have to travel to the station in the morning and in the middle of the night to give my statement. It makes me wonder why would the police investigate his claims and not mine? I wished that the law could be more useful. Doxxing laws can protect people from defamation, but it can also prevent the law from catching the stalkers. The sharing of experience on Google Docs could be a great thing if the content was moderated. If only the police didn't clamp down on that, surely we would have fewer cheaters and psychos who felt emboldened by the doxxing laws skulking dating apps in search of their next prey. I believe there are decent male and females out there who are looking to settle down, and I don't think we deserve to be preyed on this way.