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Lately, life has been different. My closest work colleague has resigned and another one will be leaving the company soon. They were my close, if not closest friends, as we have a lot in common. She has been my pillar of support -- someone to whom I can vent (and know that she could relate to my vents) if I was having a bad day. Me having to be kind and open the door to other colleagues would normally end up in them screaming "I don't need your help in any way". I work as a lawyer's assistant and I help whenever they require assistance. However, on days such as the above, I questioned why me -- a law grad from Cambridge, having scored 3A+ for A-level, had to deal with all this. I intend to be called to the bar one day and I understand that I am not qualified now, as I am not a citizen here. I stayed in the UK before I came here for work, and as a result, I had no friends and had to start from square one. Slowly, some of my colleagues became the closest people I know here. At times, I had thoughts of leaving and returning home -- phrases such as "yeah right" and "whatever" have become common in my workplace. When my closest colleagues left, I had hoped to be a little closer to another who had never treated me badly, but I've been told off by him citing "we are just colleagues" when I asked whether he wanted to grab a cup of coffee during our break. I felt that all my invites had not resonated well with him and that my questions had been a burden as he had to respond by way of saying"no". I understand when I first joined the company I came off as unfriendly to you but do you even understand what I've been going through? Have you ever wondered why so many of us left the company, and they had left because of a few individuals in the team? After what you said, I feel that I can no longer look at you the same way -- that you are strictly a colleague who wants nothing to do with me. To be honest, I had never felt lonely here in a long me, and after they left, it was a wake-up call that I had no one here. My grandparents, who were born and are citizens here, are no longer around. The thought of needing to call "befrienders" just to have someone to talk to doesn't seem right. I put it to myself that the incident today re telling me off is a lesson I should learn moving forward. I am capable of finding friends on my own, and the incident was an error of judgment on my part for I had thought that you are approachable or at least understand where I was coming from. I am disappointed to have known that to you, I am a "clingy kid" who annoys you. All I can do is hope that you will think better of me one day. I understand that today was just one of those not-so-great days, which I will learn from and carry the lessons learnt with me moving forward.